Cafes, Cat and Otherwise

As an ardent lover of eating, one of my favorite parts of Korean culture so far is the food. Like everything else, food is really cheap here. I had eaten Korean food before, but I was totally unprepared for how different restaurant culture is. A typical visit to a restaurant here actually starts outside, because most restaurants post their full menus outside with prices so you can know what you’re getting yourself into. This kind of preemptive competition helps drive prices down as well, because customers won’t even mess up the first time and go to a more expensive place. Since comparison is easier and more upfront, restaurants are more inclined to offer lower prices.

After you’ve selected a place, you will walk in and tell the wait staff how many people are with you. Most restaurants that I go to are pretty cheap, so it’s usually the owner who will do this. Most restaurant owners are older people who cook out of a normal-sized kitchen and bring the homemade food out ready to order. It’s a very cool, intimate way of dealing with food. Anyway, so after you sit, most people order immediately since the menus are outside and pretty much every Korean restaurant has the same things. Usually the server won’t follow you to the table, so you just have to yell your order across the restaurant. And they -never- write things down. It’s very, very rare. This usually doesn’t cause issue, but I have just eaten the wrong thing a couple of times thanks to a neglectful waiter.

The cool thing, though, is that side dishes are always available and always free and unlimited. To get more, you just yell at the worker. And water is always free too, though it is almost always self-serve. It’s very rare that people drink things with their meals other than water and alcohol, and even then, Korean people feel that drinking too much water will complicate digestion of food, so they don’t drink a lot of it.

Depending on what type of restaurant you go to, there will either be a kitchen in the back where someone cooks your food or there will be little grills at each table which you use to cook your own food. This will usually include a meat, garlic, and kimchi, which you roll up along with rice, bean sprouts, and sauce into a piece of lettuce.

The point of all of this is, I’m gaining weight.

Another phenomenon pretty unique to large Asian cities like Seoul is the cat/dog cafe. The concept there is that you go to this cafe, order a coffee, and then get to play with cats or dogs while you enjoy. It makes sense, since most apartments either don’t allow pets or are too small to have large pets or more than one. It’s a great stress reliever and excellent in case you really wanted your clothes to be totally coated with animal hair. (They have lint rollers, but it just doesn’t quite do the trick.) My friends and I recently visited a cat cafe where we met some lovely tabbies. Here’s the best cat beard shot I got there. Image

 

Otherwise, I haven’t been up to a whole lot. Classes are picking up (kind of), and midterms will be coming up soon. I finally know enough Korean (and enough directions) that I can occasionally help taxi drivers find the apartment, and I have learned that usually if a person can’t speak English, they know some Chinese. So communication barriers have been dropping left and right! Also good news, the weather is beautiful here now. Barring today and yesterday, it has been the upper part of 65-70 degrees the last couple of weeks. The cherry blossoms are out, and they are beautiful. I’ll post pictures when I get around to taking them. Also good news is that I have begun teaching an English class to senior citizens along with one of my good friends. Look forward to the next couple of posts, where I’ll try to post pictures from that too!

 

 

Vagary: Rachel’s Goals, Realistic and Not

Image(photo credit to wordporn’s Facebook page)

It’s time to talk about goals for my study abroad experience! Studies show that this is really useful in managing expectations, and I love studies! These are all goals which I have discussed briefly with people who have studied abroad before, so it seems like this list is a good place to start. I’ll find out after I get there if I was right. Here we go…

 

Goal #1–Learn a whole bunch of Korean.

Like, enough so I can not only order things in restaurants and sing along to k-pop songs, but so that I can also write papers and subtly scream obscenities at passersby back home whenever I please.

 

Goal #2–Buy a whole bunch of Korean skincare products.
Because A) I have Korean skin, meaning their products are almost guaranteed to work better for me, and B) let’s face it: they just do it better. When we’re talking about a country whose beauty product consumption rates are the highest in the world (http://www.globaltrade.net/f/market-research/text/South-Korea/Hygiene-Cosmetics-Health-Medical-Equipment-Cosmetics-Industry-in-South-Korea.html), we’re talking about something these people spend A LOT of their day thinking about. Don’t worry, though–I promise no surgery will be involved. I will not come back with a different nose. Or forehead. Or chin. Scout’s honor.

 

Goal #3–[try to] Figure out what’s up with North Korea.

The class I’m most excited about taking is called Politics and Society of North Korea. I’m pumped about it because there’s so little that we know about the state from the outside world, especially from the Western world. Especially after starting to read a fantastic book called Escape from Camp 14 by Blaine Harden, I am totally fascinated and disgusted by the way things work over there. It’s like those doctors who feel drawn to working in the trauma unit: I just can’t look away. I hope to have a whole new understanding and a fair amount of empathy for the citizens of North Korea when I get back. And who knows, maybe I’ll run into Dennis Rodman along the way and he’ll give me an invite like he recently did for CNN’s Chris Cuomo. I’m pretty much the same level as him, right?

 

Goal #4–Find out if I like living abroad.

Please, all of my grandmothers and aunts and parents, take a deep breath. I don’t mean forever. I want to find out if living abroad could be an option for me post-graduation in case I decided to do and was accepted to a program like Fulbright, Peace Corps or teaching English abroad. I’ve heard several people say that studying abroad was a deciding factor in knowing that a program like this would be an option for them…or for knowing it wouldn’t be.

 

Goal #5–Eat ALL OF THE FOOD IN KOREA.

I am such a foodie. I have been accused on more than one occasion of eating like a grown man, which is significant because I am a 5 foot tall woman. I have a bit of a belly, but I like it that way. It’s like in high school movies when the athletes always pack a ball and the cheerleaders always wear their uniforms: I like to warn people about my hobbies. I love food and I love cooking, so I hope to find some awesome recipes that I can duplicate and share with my roommates after arriving back stateside.

 

Goal #6–Connect with my roots.

If you’ve read my blog at all or looked at my profile picture or met me, you have probably noticed that I am Korean by heritage. I was born in Seoul and was adopted shortly thereafter. Basically what that means is that I have a Korean body and an American brain. I’m very excited to have the opportunity to blend the two, at least in the brain section. It’s not that I want to find “What if I were…”; it’s that I want to find “Who am I because…” I have been blessed with amazing parents who have been very understanding and helpful in this process. Thanks to my mother’s help, I have found the name of my adoption agency and birth mother. After I have been in Korea for a few weeks, I plan to visit my adoption agency and see if they can find information on my family history for me. I understand that only about 3% of adoptees find their birth families, and that’s okay with me. I don’t think I’m any less of a person because I haven’t ever met my birth parents. But I certainly won’t forgive myself if I don’t try. Look forward to my post about that adventure as it happens.

 

Goal #7–Defy gender stereotypes by beating a bunch of Korean boys in basketball.

I once dated a Chinese guy who was totally dumbfounded that I could play basketball and was even more shocked when I beat him in HORSE (once, twice, three times…yeah, it got old after a while). Asian societies in general are largely very skewed to favor men, and females who have fairly liberal mindsets or skills often attributed to males are often looked down upon as “strong girls” (which is, strangely, an insult). As a female with a fairly liberal mindset, especially one who looks like the people in my host country, I’m interested to see how people react to me. The society is rapidly becoming more accepting to the concept that women can be equal to men intellectually and to certain LGBTQ* issues–for example, the annual Korean Queer Culture Festival in March–but many still hold attitudes which Belle from Beauty and the Beast would moniker “positively primeval.” I’m not hoping to change the whole society, but I’m thinking that if I find some people who will accept me as I am–an annoyingly stubborn and headstrong young woman–then I’ll have found some real gems.

 

Goal #8–Give back.

This sounds cliche. That’s because it is. So you can be sure that I am saying it with the utmost sincerity, because I hate cliches. (I will now avoid the cliche where one would normally say that they “avoid cliches like the plague.” You’re welcome.) Volunteering has become a really big part of my life since I started working with the International Book Project in 2012. I make a serious effort to go at least once a week, and it is a great stress reliever as well as a great cause. As part of my study abroad experience, I’ll be volunteering with The Back Project, a Council on International Educational Exchange (CIEE) sponsored program which connects students studying abroad in South Korea to North Korean refugee students. As part of the program, I’ll be helping these students learn English and learn more about the world in general. I’m so excited for this opportunity, and I’m always grateful for the chance to make a positive impact on someone’s life. So look forward to posts about these adventures, as well!

 

I have a million other things I want to say, but this is already long enough. As always, feel free to leave comments about what you’d like to see in future posts. Up next is Rachel the Stress Machine: Packing Edition. Look forward to it!